During
the ‘Occupy Nigeria’ campaign, I saw a placard which I found initially
interesting, but which I disagree with now. It was a placard that
threatened, “
One day, the Poor will have nothing left to eat but the Rich!”
At the time I thought the rich being
referred to were the corrupt politicians who have looted and continue to
loot the legacy of Nigerians, alive and unborn. But as I thought about
it in more detail, I realized the placard didn’t specify which rich
people they meant. It appeared all rich people were easy pickings, it
didn’t matter whether they got their wealth through hardwork or through
deceit. Somehow the message was: if you are rich, you are or will soon
become a target for the poor to attack.
In recent times, I have been reading
stories which seem to confirm how much some people who consider
themselves poor, will happily attack others who appear ‘better’ than
them. The rising number of kidnapping cases in the country is an
example. When caught, these criminals, who are often university
graduates, blame the government and the society for their crime. They
don’t blame it on their greed and laziness, instead they choose to
direct their unjustified anger at a helpless society.
I blame this on an entitlement mentality
that many people have about life. It is not only seen in the young
graduate who believes he deserves to get a job just because he has a
certificate, it is also seen in the relatives who think just because
they are family members they deserve to be supported by their more
successful relatives.
While we agree that it is a noble thing
for those who are rich to help those who are not, we must remember that
it is their prerogative to do so or not. They should not be threatened,
attacked or seen as targets of crime when for reasons known to them,
they choose not to help as expected.
I don’t write this because I am rich or
because I don’t know what it means to be poor. Far from it! I come from a
very, very humble background. Infact we were so poor that at the age of
five, I knew we were poor! And I don’t think I have ‘arrived’ yet, my
bank account reminds me of that daily.
However, I have refused to tie my
destiny to the whims and caprices of a rich relative somewhere or the
government. I know that with hardwork and determination I too can become
comfortable enough to take care of myself and others. I know many
people though who still feel that others ‘owe’ them something, just
because they are more successful. And I have learnt some lessons from
their sad and unproductive lives:
People with entitlement mentality are
usually ungrateful; because these people feel entitled to whatever
support they are receiving, they never really appreciate the sacrifices
made for them. They often waste the resources spent on them and in the
case of a loan, may refuse to pay back. Their reason? They believe they
deserved it, so you didn’t do them any favours.
They are lazy and proud: These people do
not believe in days of ‘humble beginnings.’ They are usually dreamers
and want to make it rich quick. Don’t dare suggest to them any humble
job or trade as a starting point, they will be quick to tell you that it
is beneath them! And for those who claim to be religious, they might
quip, “my God is a rich God”, happily forgetting that that same God
allowed His own son to be born in a manger and work as a carpenter.
They are greedy and may become
criminals: Because these people have ‘big eyes and long throat’ like we
say in Nigeria, and are too lazy and proud, they are likely to engage in
criminal activities. And yes some might get away with crime, but there
is always a day of reckoning. And when that day comes, they of course
blame everyone else, even the devil, for their behaviour.
They never take responsibility for their
behaviour: These people are very quick to play the blame-game. Their
excuses are “if only my parents were rich”, “if only my uncle wasn’t so
stingy”, “if only the government did this or that”, etc. They quickly
forget motivational stories of people who triumphed against all odds to
become successful. They would rather live in self-pity, nursing and
polishing their excuses as their trophies.
The other day I read a tragic story that
showed how destructive an entitlement mentality can be. It was the
story of a landslide in a town in one of the southern states of the
country. According to the news, government officials had warned
residents of that area to relocate a number of times, but they refused.
The obvious reason for their refusal was because the government had not
made alternative accommodation available. Sadly when the landslide
occurred, it killed men, women and children. The survivors ran away from
the area with little or nothing. They didn’t wait any longer for the
government to provide accommodation, they ran away to live with
relatives or friends.
Of course we can blame the government
for not helping more, but I think if those people had left when they
were warned, instead of waiting for government assistance, they would be
alive today. I hate to sound unfeeling, but their excuses, though
justifiable, did not save them or their loved ones from tragedy. The
government did not suffer, but they did.
And that is the unpleasant truth about
life: excuses or blame games do not spare us from unnecessary suffering.
We owe it to ourselves to make or mar our lives. Our parents,
relatives, government or society can only help us so far.
If you don’t make the effort, you alone
and your loved ones will suffer the consequences, not the people you are
blaming. If you will get rid of that entitlement mentality, and try
your best at whatever you do, you too will be successful.